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Georgia Whitehead's avatar

Thank you for putting beautiful words to the burden of masculinity that every man carries. My partner suffers endlessly with the internalised thoughts that you describe here and I see it (with so much empathy) as such a trap for men. Your writing will help people.

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Mai Hua's avatar

another amazing piece. i always wonder what it is to be « on the other side » and i think i do when i read this. and it is really terrifying. feminists are definitely not the problem. there is so much to unpack, create, love.

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Christian Austin's avatar

Another raw and harrowing read, Mary Fuckin’ Poppins! 🤣 When are you guys finishing up? I’m halfway thru my final read through of MS. Will send to you in next few days ✍️📖📚🎷

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Justine Read's avatar

Takes a real gift to have these thoughts and convert them into beautifully written pieces. Thank you.

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Tina Storey's avatar

Gorgeous writing, and thank you for affirming that men can be sensitive too.

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Rock & Roll Therapy's avatar

Thank you so much x

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Steve's avatar

I cried when I read this.

Thank you x

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Steve's avatar

Hey Jerry, interesting piece to which I related to and agreed with until the last paragraph. I am somewhat disappointed with your mischaractisation of me as a white van man. I am a professional guide, bike mechanic and (on this trip) medic. My role was to facilitate your journey through the WFW. I merely said to you that I was uncomfortable leaving a lit incense stick in the leaf litter once you had finished your readings. This was not a demonstration of masculinity just common sense. You didn’t need to use this incident to back up your point.

“Competent” Steve

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Rock & Roll Therapy's avatar

Sorry you took it that way Steve, I can assure you none of us saw you as a white van man, we were all deeply impressed by the way you facilitated the whole week, along with Richard, with sensitivity, care and expertise that made us all feel safe and looked after. The reference to your driving style (which I said I imagined) was not meant as a negative stereotype, more a display of casual confidence.

I was using the incident to show my own internal programming rather than as a judgement of you, and as such didn’t feel the need to expand on your cv beyond driving for us, and you were 100% right to advise me to put out the incense which you did very gently, hope you’re well, Jerry

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Hey Jerry, interesting piece to which I related to and agreed with until the last paragraph. I am somewhat disappointed with your mischaractisation of me as a white van man. I am a professional guide, bike mechanic and (on this trip) medic. My role was to facilitate your journey through the WFW. I merely said to you that I was uncomfortable leaving a lit incense stick in the leaf litter once you had finished your readings. This was not a demonstration of masculinity just common sense. You didn’t need to use this incident to back up your point.

“Competent” Steve

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Steve's avatar

Hey Jerry, interesting piece to which I related to and agreed with until the last paragraph. I am somewhat disappointed with your mischaractisation of me as a white van man. I am a professional guide, bike mechanic and (on this trip) medic. My role was to facilitate your journey through the WFW. I merely said to you that I was uncomfortable leaving a lit incense stick in the leaf litter once you had finished your readings. This was not a demonstration of masculinity just common sense. You didn’t need to use this incident to back up your point.

“Competent” Steve

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