You write so powerfully! My husband (Pakistani) coined the word ‘resentmentfulness’ which kind of nails the dangerous weight of that emotion I think. This is an amazing sequence of posts - do please make a book of it!
When used correctly (clean), it can be a powerful ally but when it comes unannounced (dirty), it can be destructive and dangerous.
Then when trying to process and understand the triggers behind its arrival, it can prove to be very elusive and well guarded by the ego as there can often be shame attached to the behaviour; I find it to be the hardest emotion to work with…
Earlier today, I was on the phone with Mai, talking about the necessity to name things, to put words on what upsets and wounds us in our relationship with others. I ended up saying that otherwise, you start building resentment which is the one thing that can destroy it all. Reading your piece tonight, a few hours later, is like a synchronic echo to this conversation.
Thank you for giving us a glimpse into your very personal Tour de France, Jerry.
You write so powerfully! My husband (Pakistani) coined the word ‘resentmentfulness’ which kind of nails the dangerous weight of that emotion I think. This is an amazing sequence of posts - do please make a book of it!
That’s a great word. Thank you - I promised I’d never write another book, but I seem to be writing one so what do I know! X
I have a love/ hate relationship with my anger…
When used correctly (clean), it can be a powerful ally but when it comes unannounced (dirty), it can be destructive and dangerous.
Then when trying to process and understand the triggers behind its arrival, it can prove to be very elusive and well guarded by the ego as there can often be shame attached to the behaviour; I find it to be the hardest emotion to work with…
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Spot on man, takes Jedi level skills! x
Powerful as always
Thank you so much for this powerful text.
Earlier today, I was on the phone with Mai, talking about the necessity to name things, to put words on what upsets and wounds us in our relationship with others. I ended up saying that otherwise, you start building resentment which is the one thing that can destroy it all. Reading your piece tonight, a few hours later, is like a synchronic echo to this conversation.
Thank you for giving us a glimpse into your very personal Tour de France, Jerry.